Hey Lyn! First, let me commend you on trying to find factual answers to your questions and not just taking things from the internet. I think it's important to talk to people in order to learn about their lives, so thanks for taking the time. I totally agree with you on the trust issue. It seems that all you guys are doing a better job of explaining things than I did, which is the reason I wanted to post this here.

No, it's not anyone's business how I live my life, but I think it's important to try and get some factual information out there...you know? I don't take things like belenen's post personal because I know that she doesn't have all the facts. I honestly don't know whether she'll even read anything that's been posted here, but a lot of people have read it so it's all good. My intention wasn't to change her mind about BDSM...I just wanted her to know that she didn't have all the facts.

Thanks for taking the time to post your opinions.
Hugs!